VIRGINITY: A True Measure Of Value (Must Read)
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I seek refuge against satan, the cursed. In the Name of Allah, The Beneficent, The Merciful.
I seek forgiveness of sin on what i am about to say as I am only human and not perfect.
The first thing that comes to our mind when the word Virginity is being mentioned is 'intact hymen' according to scientists. Where as, in the light of the glorious books where the idea was invented, Maryam (virgin Mary) was referred to as chaste or untouched.
She said:"How can i have a son when no mortal has touched me nor am I unchaste" [ Quran 19:20].
According to my dictionary, being chaste or a virgin refers to having no prior experience of s*xual activity. Being innocent.
But how do you define s*xual activity? Is it limited to s*xual intercourse but inclusive of any act of touching? Kiss, caress, romance are all agents of s*xual activity by my analysis.
Who is a true virgin? Do Virgins still exist? How do you measure values? Is Virginity limited to s*xual intercourse? I want you to pay attention to these questions very well because what i am about to unveil is what many people do not know especially men.
Before i do, i want to give you some illustrations and say of your own opinion, whether Virgins still exist. A lady that has never had her hymen broken but experienced romance, intercourse orally or through the anus will refer to her self as a virgin. Those whom has been molested as a child or raped as an adult which in a way does not have their hymen intact will not be considered as a virgin, or would she? Those who practice masturbation while touching themselves, are they Virgins?
In ancient times, the way to decipher a virgin is through the white handkerchief stained with blood being shown to the public by the husband. Then, it is more of tradition than dignity.
Exposure and education has changed lots of things and opened our eyes to some misconception.
Then, the male species are much more domineering and man are considered to be more superior in everything. Hence, it is all about what men want.
Recent research has shown that there is no true way of testing for Virginity except to belief what you are being told. There might be blood stain after s*x due to roughness while having s*x with a not - virgin as well. Some even make use of virginal tightening cream and soap to deceive others.
Some people naturally do not have hymen or might have lost it during strenuous exercises.
And some people might have had s*x before and after a while,it closes. It all depend on the body system.
Also according to experts, there is a higher possibility a virgin girl do not bleed if she is well stimulated and possibly reach orgasm during fore Play before penetration. This bleeding is not gushing just stains. Many have been fingered and still refer to themselves as virgin.
If hymen is a thin layer of flesh, is there no possibility it might have been broken during fore play especially fingering. It took me a month to complete this write up to seek opinion of both men and women on their perspective on s*x and found out few women enjoy s*x.
They love foreplay and if the guy is patient enough to satisfying them, he might be allowed penetration but most girls will stop at romance if chanced.
Then, I specifically point out to the girls that maybe girls are naturally selfish. If you do not want s*x why romance at all. Its like getting what we want and deny men of that rights too. But all some girls want is just someone to hold them and not necessarily romance. That does not mean they do not feel but fear the wrath of God. Here is what I am actually saying.
Whether you are a virgin or not does not make you a good person. Circumstances might lead people to not being a virgin and still be righteous. A friend of mine once told me the benefit of catching them young as he call it. He said to ensure no one has touched them before you do but does that mean no one will touch them after you? A girl might not have been penetrated before but what she has done is what the prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) frown at. That is, entering the back which is called anal. Does someone who go against Allahs' messenger fear Allah?
Fellow humans,we can not all be lucky to meet someone who has never been touched be it male or female except you marry her at nine years old.
Some old people touches children and molest them too, whose fault is that. Some girls reach puberty at nine these days. And once you reach the Stage, then the urge to engage in s*xual activities grow.
Do not judge people by their reaction to s*x as we all have different level of arousal but rather see them through whom they really are. Some people are naughty but that doesn't mean they are loose s*xually. Let us try to keep ourselves no matter how difficult it is or what the world is going to. We are indeed at the end of time when the forbidden will become lawful and vice versa.
Allah is Merciful and forgive all sins but you can never tell if you will have the moment to repent. Righteousness is not where we face in the east or west but our deeds and character that justifies our fear in God. Never allow anyone to put you down by telling you there is no point in keeping chaste after been deflowered. No one has the right to put you on a condition to be with them.
You are not for everyone. "And he who knows the worths of gold, buys it". Do not subject yourself to intimidation. They need you as much as you need them.There are situations you find it hard to stay away from people you love and thereby committing fornication but if they are not ready to marry you, it is not worth it. Stay away from such situation even if you have to cut ties with them.
Understanding people is not how far you have gone with them but the fear of God is the beginning of all wisdom and Understanding. You can be with anyone and maintain harmony if you fear God.
If anyone ask how they can get to know you, tell them by getting to know and fear He who created you. Understanding how God works will give you insight to Understanding people.
We are all guilty of this act and this goes to all and sundry.
Never lie to people. If they feel worthy of you, they will cherish you and never leave even if you are once a prostitute and have repented. Allah loves those who repent sincerely.
Guide your chastity and belief in Allah, it may come late but one day it will happen just like everyone else. Your own man will never put you on a condition and will accept your values and morals.
In conclusion, engaging ins*xual intercourse is spiritual and be careful who your spirit mixes with.
Your destiny is attached to your glory which lies beneath your legs.
Do not open it to just anyone except those who are worthy of it, your husband.
It might seems no one will buy in to your idea but with patience, you will be surprised at what you can get.
I pray Almighty God should grant us the grace to bear the truth and stand against the forbidden. (Amen).
How much are you willing to let go of the forbidden for the fear of God? Even those whom their presence alone makes you commit the forbidden. Lock up! Not just zip up!
Like i said earlier " only those who know the worth of gold buy it". Virginity is not a true measure of ones value but fear of God is. It encompasses both your deeds and attitude to your self and others.
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As Written By CEO House of Arraka
Ganiyah O.bint Khalid.
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